Did you know that postpartum depression can last up to your child’s first birthday?
Did you know many moms don’t seek help because they think it’ll just go away?
Finding a therapist postpartum was really important for me. A year before I got pregnant, I was already seeing a therapist for depression and anxiety. My reason for going to a therapist, at the time, was because I wanted to better myself and mind before becoming a wife and starting a family. In my mind, I would've been going to therapy for about 2 years before beginning to think about expanding our family.
And then we got pregnant. I will never forget telling my therapist that I was pregnant. She looked at me and said Congratulations? I laughed because she knew exactly to say. I think she knew that I was having reservations and not because I didn't want a child but because I was TERRIFIED. In my mind, I had a goal for my mental state before getting pregnant and to me, I hadn't met that goal. I continued to go to therapy and she helped me get through times where I thought I was failing my pregnancy and times where I thought I'd never be able to love my child because of all the pain I was in and saying "he's causing." I had fear of resentment and fear of never being able to love the way my parents loved me.
At 34 weeks, we moved out of the state and that meant a new therapist. My therapist at the time was so sweet that she checked on me after we moved and even though I was now out-of-network. Post delivery and after my OB-GYN told me to reconsider therapy, I began my search.
I found someone who said they specialized in postpartum depression/anxiety in women of color. I was excited and made my first appointment. After 3 sessions, I knew this wouldn't be a good fit (detailed story later to come). I didn't feel rejuvenated, refreshed, supported with my new therapist and I was very disappointed. The reality is, just like a relationship, not every person is for you or a good fit so I had to start my journey over.
How do you find your therapist?
- Tips on finding the right therapist for you by PsychologyToday.
- How to Find a Therapist You Connect With
In addition, here are some places my mom friends and I have explored to find the best therapist for you, near you: